Let's cut to the chase. Moms are begging for a break, pampering, and most of all, the gift of being seen. Last month, we surveyed local moms on a popular local Facebook group, mostly moms of young children, in Greensboro and the surrounding areas. Over 400 votes were tallied asking Moms what they really want for Mother's Day this year. April 2024, Greensboro, NC Top 5 Requests Pampering Appointments- massages, manicures, pedicures Professional Cleaning- A deep clean of the house Alone Time- Breakfast in bed followed by a peaceful day of zero responsibilities (and full access to the remote) Acknowledgment- Heartfelt notes with specific details on their gratitude and love for me Gifts I actually want- Look for clues on my Amazon Wishlist or Pinterest Page A note to Mother's Day Gift-Givers: After analyzing the results, here is the ultimate in Mother's Day luxury*gifting: Book her a hotel room on an upcoming date for a solo stay-cation complete with room service meals and a massage. Explain to her, in detail, why she deserves it! While she's away, hire someone to clean the house and her car. More (financially) realistic versions of this would include: Take the kids out of the house for the day after making her breakfast in bed and leaving her heartfelt notes. Suprise her with a couple of items from her wishlist or items that have been lingering in her online shopping carts. Or Schedule a nail salon or massage appointment and, together with the kids, deep clean the house and her car before she gets home. Leave her thoughtful notes to find in the house and her vehicle. Most importantly, consider how mini-versions of these can take place throughout the year! One week to go- Mother's Day is Sunday, May 12th. A note to the moms: Now, Mamas, let's remember that while it's lovely to have someone else take care of us, there is no one better equipped for the job than ourselves. At least once a day at Arboro, we remind parents that taking care of ourselves is a way that we take care of our family. When we are at our best, we are able to parent with more patience and empathy. We are able to be more present with others when we are not preoccupied with ignoring our own needs. Mother's Day is a good excuse to practice scheduling self-care, but a holiday is not a prerequisite to prioritizing ourselves. When our kids are adults, do we want them to have healthy bodies, healthy minds, and healthy emotions? Of course, we do! Dr Luley often reminds us of the importance of modeling the behaviors we want from our kids. That includes modeling healthy eating habits, setting boundaries with others, dedicating time to exercise, practicing self-advocacy, and adding ourselves to the darn calendar! Take a look at your calendar. What is the ratio of appointments for family members vs. yourself? Is your yoga or kickboxing class actually on the schedule or just something you think you "should do one of these days." Do you have a therapy appointment coming up? Mental health maintenance through consistently scheduled therapy helps us keep our healthy habits strong. How frequently do you hang out with friends or enjoy a date with your partner? Put it on the calendar- today! Imperfect in Arboro, Jenna Gilfillan Arboro Empowered Co-Owner Maybe we can help get that calendar filled. Here are a few ways that Arboro offers self-care. Book a meeting with an Arboro coach or therapist. Gather your friends and schedule a private party. 'Just because' is a perfectly good reason and Arboro will take care of planning a fun experience for you. Schedule pampering appointments while your kids are at camp. Enjoy the solitude of our Grown-up Grove while your kids are in one of our classes! Sign up for Yoga for Caregivers! Add yourself to your schedule today. Links below! What are you waiting for? Forward this email to every dad you know! What would you add to the list of what moms really want? Comment below!

By, Christine-Evette Ngeve, MSW, Owner of Peak Potential Journey Being raised by a single mom I observed early what hard work, dedication, and strength eluded. Being an only child, sports were a central part of my life that allowed me to engage in friendships and socialization with other peers that I didn’t get all the time as an only child. I tried multiple sports and extracurriculars growing up including dance, basketball, jump roping, softball, volleyball, clogging, cooking classes, etc. As I got older, I had to choose which sports or activities I was going to continue. Volleyball and softball shaped my identity in profound ways. Fast forward to my college years where I attended Shaw University representing my school in not one, but three sports. Yes, you read that correctly, while receiving my Bachelor’s degree in Psychology, I also was playing volleyball, softball, AND track and field. But it wasn’t just about the games for me; it was about using my platform to make a difference, both on and off the field. As a former athlete and Top 30 NCAA Woman of the Year Honoree in 2019, I’ve seen firsthand the transformative power of sports. One of my favorite quotes that I live by in helping students and student-athletes is from Dr. Dudley Flood who states “Children are not what you think they are..they’re not what they think they are..but they tend to become what they think you think they are.” Why does this quote matter? Because sports have the potential to be so much more than games. They can be a catalyst for positive change, empowering young athletes to become leaders, advocates, and role models in their communities. All of those characteristics are in addition to being a student-athlete. One unique thing about all of us is that our fingerprints can’t be duplicated. The idea I want you to continue to consider as your child goes through their journey in athletics—they are more than their sport and being an athlete is not their only identity. I challenge families to allow our student-athletes to have a purpose-based athletic identity. Helping your student understand their purpose which could include their culture, their character strengths, their relationships, and other gifts they have to offer in the world will cultivate their internal motivation for their whole self and not just their athlete self. The more constrained the story is, the more the person’s self-worth depends on their identity as an athlete (Search Institute, 2021). My passion relies on academic achievement and a whole person-driven focus for student-athletes. I invite you to attend my upcoming events at Arboro, including student-athlete study halls and Athletic Identity/Life After Sport Coaching. Join Christine-Evette at Arboro for her upcoming community event- Game Plan for Academic Progression. Post written by: Christine-Evette Ngeve, MSW LCSWA, LCASA Peak Potential Journey https://www.peakpotentialjourney.com/ Instagram: @peakpotentialjourney_ Parents, how do you think our community can better support and empower student-athletes to become leaders and change agents, both on and off the field? Join the conversation! Write your response in the comments below.

Local Support Networks for Families By Lorie Jones, M.Ed. Arboro Empowered Coach Recently, I received a text from a friend and mother to three beautiful children, that said “I need help! What child-development resources are there in Greensboro for young children and families?” She was frustrated and felt defeated. As a former teacher, she felt she should know how to help her child from her experience in the classroom, but felt like she was on a merry-go-round with phone calls from the school and the pediatrician. I quickly told her “Hang tight, Mama, we’ve got this..together!” It was then I had an “ah-ha” moment, that families aren’t always aware of the community resources that are available for children, and I was on a quest to help do a better job and create a post about different resources right here, in our ‘boro! I hope you will find the list below helpful and share it with your friends, classmates, and neighbors! We are ALL in this together; it truly takes a village to help raise a child. Don’t ever feel embarrassed to ask for help.  Trust me, as a mom of three and an educator, I am certain that someone else has had the same question and if not, we will work together to find a solution! First and foremost, Arboro Empowered is an incredible resource. We offer a variety of tools to help you and your child, from speech-language therapist, Ms. Nicole, to child psychologist, Dr. Luley. We offer individual coaching for parents, educators, and children.  Please don’t ever hesitate to reach out about class offerings, even if you haven’t seen a class for a specific need, we are here to help at Arboro Empowered! Resources compiled by Arboro Empowered Coach & Early Childhood Expert: Lorie Jones, M.Ed. What support networks have been helpful to your family?  Comment below and share the love!

Thank you to the Trahan family for participating in Arboro's first parent interview. We are grateful for the opportunity to be part of your village. Read on to learn how Arboro empowers their family. How did you learn about Arboro Empowered? To be honest, I stumbled upon Arboro while we were sitting in our son's ICU room. It was after a great conversation with our social worker. She brought up some interesting points about how transitioning to our new normal can be very intimidating. She encouraged us to do something out in the community. Slow and steady: A few times we tried to make it out to story time, but it didn't happen- we had a lot of extra accessories and it was intimidating. When you go from one kid to two kids, it's hard enough, but when you throw in a little of extra pizzazz, it can take a while. What has been your experience at Arboro Empowered? It's hard to tell you just ONE positive experience that we've had at Arboro. I can tell you this, I've been heard. I had a conversation with Lindsay and Jenna about how difficult and expensive it is to receive/find services for a child who doesn't have a diagnosis, but so desperately needs the help. Within weeks, they found these services for us and the best part they offer them at prices that are affordable. There are no words to express our gratitude. What three words describe the culture and community at Arboro? Inclusive, diverse and an affable space. What skills or experiences is your child gaining in their classes at Arboro? For us our four-year-old has always struggled with his speech and others understanding him. Since starting classes -when he's coming home with a new technique, he glows. He is BEYOND proud of his new abilities and he definitely lets you hear it! How do you feel empowered as a parent at Arboro? I absolutely feel like I'm supporting my children in ways I wasn't able to before! What’s your favorite way to spend your time while your kids are in classes? My favorite thing to do when my kiddos are in classes is just to sit (sounds luxurious right?). We're continuously running around for appointments or on the phone with doctors. So being able just to sit and breathe is a pretty big deal. What would you say to a parent who is on the fence about signing their kid up for their first class? The one thing that I would say to a parent who's on the fence would be, "Just try." I know it's overwhelming, especially if your kiddo may need a bit more support. No matter if that means building a routine or helping them work through big feelings. The coaches are always going to meet your child where they are. It's okay for your child to be unapologetically themself. Arboro has benefited our family in so many ways. They have provided a safe environment for both of our children to grow, learn, and play. They have also given the parents an opportunity to grow by providing wonderful opportunities and experiences. How has Arboro benefited your family over the past few months? Oh goodness, I can go on and on with this one, like the class opportunities that have been provided, such as Language Lab, run by a licensed speech therapist or Seedling Explorers, led by a certified recreational therapist. Without Arboro, we wouldn't have been able to afford experiences like this, and it's a wonderful opportunity. For me, I think one of the most exciting things is to see the growth and how lively it is there! I love the fact that when they offer an adult class, they always think about the kids, so I never have to worry about missing because of child care! Signed, Parents of a medically complex toddler, and a gregarious four-year-old Caitlin Trahan with her two boys Photo credit: Allison C photography

Arboro Empowered is parterning with the pros at Triangle Child Psychology to bring their expertise on child development, parenting strategies, and early intervention options to Greensboro's community. Learn more about their 'why' for early intervention by hearing from our guest bloggers, Dani Small, MSW and Dr. Karen Luley, Ph.D, Psy. D. BY DANI SMALL, MSW AND DR. KAREN LULEY, PH.D., PSY.D. OF Triangle Child Psychology Every parent wants their kiddos to be the superheroes of their own stories - healthy, happy, and playing well with others while reaching their milestones. But what if there's a glitch in the matrix? Or some emotional or social hiccups? That's where early intervention swoops in to save the day! By spotting and tackling potential issues early on, kids get the necessary skills to rock their lives. Initiating early intervention is critical in enhancing outcomes and empowering children to attain their maximum potential. Children are at critical stages in development when their brains are most resilient and malleable, and before long-term habits and patterns have set in that make it harder for change to happen.  When problems are identified early, we have the best chance to shift the child’s developmental trajectory to a path of physical, social, emotional, and mental wellbeing, by providing essential skills that children can use throughout their lifetime. Additionally, early intervention can enhance the quality of familial relationships, elevate academic performance, and promote overall wellness. Early intervention can help children receive the appropriate care and support they need to overcome any challenges they may encounter. Generally, when these challenges are identified early, we have the best chance for interventions to be short-term and successful.  Interventions can involve a range of services, such as therapy, counseling, educational programs and resources, and medical interventions. By identifying and addressing potential issues early on, children are better equipped to handle any obstacles that may arise in their lives. Parents and caregivers play a crucial role in early intervention. They are often the first to notice any changes in their child's behavior or development and can work with healthcare or mental health professionals to identify the best course of action. It's important for parents and caregivers to be proactive and seek help if they have any questions or concerns about their child's development. At Triangle Child Psychology, we provide psychological, neuropsychological, and psychoeducational evaluations for children ranging in age from preschool through college who are struggling to achieve their potential due to developmental, cognitive, learning, processing, or social-emotional factors. We also offer one-on-one support and guidance to parents through our parent consultation services, as well as psychotherapy for children and young people. Early intervention is essential for supporting children's growth and development. By providing the necessary support and resources early on, we can help children reach their full potential and lead happy, healthy, and successful lives. So if you have any concerns, take action and let us help! On December 15, Arboro Empowered is hosting a Consultation Day with Triangle Child Psychology. All sessions are currently booked, but have no fear- we are working on a plan to bring this valuable resource and more to Greensboro again soon. Stay tuned by clicking the button below! Dream big! What resources or services would you love for Triangle Child Psychology to provide for your family? Share ideas for how TCP could equip families with knowledge and resources to help their families thrive. Maybe a parenting book club, parent support groups, Q&A sessions, consultations, parenting coaching, etc. We want to hear from you, 'Our Boro.' Comment below and help us imagine possibilities!

by Jenna Gilfillan, Co-Owner of Arboro Empowered “Tell me about your kids.” I can do that.  This morning I felt very lucky because the person who started this conversation was expert child psychologist, Dr. Karen Luley.  When I say expert, I mean expert.  We’re talking earner of not one, but two doctorates, which makes her bachelor’s and master’s degrees seem minor (which they are not), published author, celebrated clinician, and owner of Triangle Child Psychology in Chapel Hill. Plus, she’s got two kids.  She gets it. You might think someone like this would be intimidating but, spoiler alert- she’s lovely. Before we started our session, I was trying to decide which of the many parenting or child development questions I might ask that would help guide me through the constant maze of parenting.  As we started to chat, I felt immediately comfortable and enjoyed the opportunity to gain insight, confidence, and strategies. Dr. Luley was empathetic and genuine.  She helped me think proactively about ways to make small shifts in some of my current parenting practices that could make meaningful positive impacts on my family. She also offered me some tools and phrases I can use with my kids.  She helped me identify whether or not I should take further action with my concerns and what those action steps might look like. I walked away feeling equipped. It may be intriguing for me to tell you more details about our conversation, but apart from not wanting to embarrass my kids, I know that it wouldn’t serve you, the reader.  Why? Because, what I need, what my kids need, isn’t going to be the same as what your family might need. That’s the beautiful difference between sitting down with an expert like Dr. Luley who can offer insight into your specific situation, and the world wide web of information overload to sift through. By the way, I didn’t seek out a consultation because my kids are going through some sort of major problem.  I did it because I’m an imperfect human with imperfect human kids, just like every other parent.  I want to get better at all the things I care about doing well and there’s nothing I care about more than my kids. Reflecting on this morning had me wondering, ’Why haven’t I done this before?’  It’s probably because it seemed too complicated to figure out how to go about it.  Little did I know, I could’ve just clicked a link and scheduled one.  For free.  Easy peasy. Arboro Empowered and Triangle Child Psychology want to make it even easier (...and peasier?).  We know that empowerment is sparked by access to information and expert guidance.  That’s why we are offering a free Consultation Day for our community. We would be honored to connect a family with the same experience I had this morning; a chance to equip parents with information to support their family.  We know that moments like these have empowering ripple effects that go far beyond one conversation with two people. If you are a parent who seeks opportunities to learn and improve, this is an experience you will not want to miss. Imperfect in Arboro, Jenna Gilfillan *Tip- Click 'Register Now', then scroll down to find the appointment options. Are the sessions all booked up? Email us at hello@arboroempowered.com to be added to the waiting list or to get first dibs if we offer this again! We want to offer more opportunities for parents to access the expertise of Triangle Child Psychology. What ideas do you have about services we could provide? Book clubs focused on child development or parenting? Focus groups for a certain age range- terrible twos or tweens? Workshops on a certain topic? Parent support groups? We can't wait to hear what you dream up! Comment below!

Hello Arboro Empowered Community~ I couldn't be happier about my new connection to the creative and entrepreneurial leaders of Arboro. What an amazing addition to Greensboro! As a first-generation college student from a small town in South Carolina, my access to information about colleges, financial aid, and scholarships was extremely limited. However, I found myself at a school that was a perfect match for me and it changed my life. I was fully engaged in my psychology major, clubs, student government, residence life, and sports (as a spectator). It also helped that I had wonderful mentors who took an interest in me and have continued to support me throughout my career. I fell in love with the world of ‘college’ and went on to earn my Master’s degree in Education, specifically in a program known as Student Personnel Services. I learned about the history of how higher education has evolved in the United States, which trends impact our colleges and universities, and how to best support college-aged students. I devoured my academic work in higher education and even participated in a 3-month internship at the University of Alaska in Anchorage. I am still quite a nerd about all trends, research, and daily developments in the college world. My educational journey opened many doors for me and my goal is to be a part of opening doors for others by providing warm, personal support and comprehensive information. I’ve lived in Greensboro for 24 years and have raised two daughters here along with my husband, Brady. One of our daughters is studying veterinary technology at Appalachian State University and our other daughter is studying wildlife biology and conservation at the University of Vermont. Not only have I worked with hundreds of students and families in achieving their personal goals, I have experienced the college search first-hand as a parent. We are an adventure-loving family! When the weather warms up, I call it ‘adventure season’. We enjoy hiking, padding our kayaks all over NC, camping, waterfall exploring, and any other outdoor activities our schedules will allow. This summer, we drove to Michigan to be volunteer lighthouse keepers for a week! Check out the beautiful Pointe Aux Barques lighthouse. I am also an avid reader of all genres and am a champion napper when time allows. I’m looking forward to getting to know you and your children and hearing what your interests are! Join me on either December 12th or 13th for a workshop entitled The Six Elements of a Strong College Application. The workshop will run from 6 pm until 7:30 pm each night and will include refreshments and a tour of the beautiful Arboro Empowered space. I will also preview the two winter camps that will be offered during the week of December 18th. One camp will be designed for 9th-11th grades and the other camp will be designed for 12th graders. I would love to see you there! Warmly - Tammy What questions do you have about the college application process? Comment below!

By: Sarah Clark, Arboro Empowered Coach Local Firefighters of Ladder 22 reading aloud during storytime at Arboro Empowered. Reserve your spot at Arboro's weekly community storytime- every Thursday morning! When I think about reading, I have two very strong memories. Sitting in a circle with my 4th grade class while our teacher, Mrs. Govert, read The BFG at the end of the day while waiting for the bell to ring to go home. We would sit there drawn into the magic of the story so much that when the bell rang, we would exclaim, “Awwww we were just getting to the good part!” Sitting in the recliner at 9:00pm as a moody 6th grader reading the required text that I procrastinated until the last minute to read. My dad, being the avid reader he was, and knowing my procrastination habits, picked up the titles from the library for him to read alongside me. On this particular night, my dad offered to read aloud to me (to which I quickly felt offended at the mere thought of him underestimating my reading skills). Still, as he began to read aloud, I felt my body melt into the recliner and fall in love with the plot of the story until we finished half the book that night. We often think that reading aloud to kids is important in the early years as they are still developing their reading skills, but the truth is, even as an adult I find myself enthralled by a good read aloud. (I think it has fueled my love of audiobooks- or maybe it's that I am too busy to sit down as often as I’d like with a book!?) The research is consistent throughout the years about the benefits of reading aloud. Builds vocabulary, background knowledge, and the desire to read. Increases an association of comfort, connection, and pleasure with reading books. Immerses kids in the structure of a story, correct grammar, and sentence structure Develops language skills to make sense of the world. Creates experiences to hear fluency and expression when reading texts. -adapted from Jim Treleases’s Read Aloud Handbook I could go on and on about the benefits of reading aloud to kids but I will leave you with this quote: “Children are made readers on the laps of their parents.” ― Emilie Buchwald From Arboro to Yours, Sarah Clark Celebrate the magic of reading aloud as a family with Jolabokaflod- A family winter celebration at Arboro on Thursday 12/7/23. Free for the community! Learn more and reserve your spot by clicking here: https://www.arboroempowered.com/event-details/jolabokaflod-a-family-literacy-celebration-1 More information about the research behind reading aloud: 10 Benefits of Reading Aloud to Kids What Are the Benefits of Reading Aloud? Why Reading Aloud to Kids Helps Them Thrive We want to hear from you! What is your family’s favorite book to read aloud during the holiday season? Share yours below in the comments!

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by, Sarah Clark, Arboro Empowerment Coach Mess. Loud. Failure. Those are 3 words that if you are like me, it immediately stresses us out! When I first started teaching, I always felt so self-conscious when people came into my classroom and the kids were working in groups, loudly talking to their peers and it felt like there were a lot of things happening at once around the room. I thought maybe it appeared I didn’t have any control. When in reality I knew exactly what they were doing. I would quickly feel the need to defend myself and tell the students to lower their voices. The hum and rhythm of the classroom would immediately slow down to hushed whispers and students started working more independently. Sounds like a good thing right? Not so much. As my students were working on their challenge task, where they had to figure out the best method to clean the oil off the bird feather in a real-world simulation, they were on task, collaborating with their peers, celebrating their successes, trying creative strategies, solving problems, learning from their mistakes, and having fun! According to the World Economic Forum, Future of Jobs Report 2023, the top 3 skills of 2023 are: Analytical Thinking Creative Thinking Resilience, Flexibility, and Agility STEAM and Innovative activities are CRUCIAL in a child’s development and vital to providing learning experiences. STEAM is an acronym for Science, Technology, Engineering, Art, and Math. Why do we need to intentionally provide opportunities for STEAM and creative tasks? Creativity is a timeless skill. As new technology develops, problems become more complex, jobs are automated, and new skillsets are needed. Workers have to be creative to benefit from these opportunities! This next generation of students is going to encounter complex problems that are going to require creative and innovative solutions. Problems are inevitable. When was the last time everything went as perfectly as planned? Chances are you are going to encounter unexpected hiccups. You have to solve problems by coming up with a new way to approach something. How embarrassing would it be if every time something didn’t go our way as adults, we threw ourselves on the floor in a screaming fit?! This art of problem-solving is a valuable skill. STEAM and innovation activities create an encouraging environment for kids to collaborate on a common problem as they learn teamwork and communication skills simultaneously. Encourage Failure. Success and Failure go hand in hand. If you are afraid you are going to fail, you will miss opportunities to succeed. STEAM and innovation activities create a safe and encouraging atmosphere that allows kids to experience resilience as they try, fail, and try again! The good news is... There are tons of resources out there to facilitate creative tasks at home. Simply Google STEAM activities for kids. You probably already have a TON of great materials already at your fingertips. You can facilitate STEAM activities with legos, blocks, toilet paper rolls, or paper. You name it and you can use it! One more point When working with your child, resist the urge to just tell them how to do it. Instead, try asking them- What have you already tried? Arboro Empowered also offers STEAM classes throughout the week- go online to check it out! Our STEAM classes allow students to go through the Design Thinking process of Ask, Observe, Gather, Design, Test, and Solve with the help of other peers to solve problems and think creatively! What are some fun STEAM activities you want to try at your house? Comment below with what you’ve tried and what you hope to try soon! Innovators pictured here are engaged in a problem-solving challenge during STEAM Innovators Class with Ms. Sarah.

What does it look like at your house? At my house, it's when the most impressive stalling and negotiation techniques are practiced. If you're one of the lucky ones with a kid who tackles their homework independently, well, I'm jealous. It isn't like my kid doesn't love to learn. In fact, he considers solving math problems and reading fun most of the time. Once he starts. He doesn't like to start. He dreads starting. I get it. I feel the same way about exercising. Here is what I imagine happening in his mind: Homework? But I'm finally home. I want to do all the things. I want to play with this random toy I haven't noticed in months. I want to play with my sister. I want to teach the dog a trick. I want to ride my bike. I want to do ANYTHING but homework. Why? Not sure. Maybe because I am not choosing it, and all day long people have told me what to do and when to do it, and here we go again! Cue whining. Didn't work. Let's try leaving the vicinity. Didn't work. Pretend I'm sleeping! Bluff called. Oh no, now Mom's getting that tone in her voice. I don't like that tone. Maybe it's time to kick in my stellar negotiation tactics. "So Mommy..." Psychologists- there's got to be a name for these stages. And yes, we do have a routine. Yes, we do prepare him. Yes, he does get a break before launching into it. Trust me, I am all ears when it comes to other ideas! I wonder, what benefit could come from spending that time talking about his day instead of walking him through his "stages." How might we grow closer, and grow healthier? Less time at the homework table means more time outside. Less time fussing about what to do and when to do it means more time to navigate the challenges of life. Together. Sign me up. Literally. I'm signed up. We created Homework Help because there is no way I'm alone in this. How do I know for sure? Because of the countless parent-teacher conferences I've had in the role of teacher where parents have described an almost identical scenario to me. So many parents have told me about how tears are regularly spilled, voices are raised, and conflicts are common. All over homework. Oh, and don't get me started on the reading log. Too late. I've started. Here's my dilemma. As a Reading Specialist, I know just how important it is to read regularly to become a better reader. There is no question about it. I also know that if a kid is not drawn to reading (yet), if they don't find pleasure in reading (yet), or if they aren't in the right environment to focus on reading (yet), it can be another cause for the homework hangup (I'm workshopping phrases here). By the way, home might not be the best environment for every kid. Home can be wonderfully (or not so wonderfully) distracting with family members, favorite toys, yummy snacks, pets, etc. That's the best-case scenario. I also know that parents regularly face the ethical dilemma of one or many of the following scenarios: Do I sign it anyway if my kid didn't actually read? What message does that send to my child about honesty? Do I send it in blank? Will my kid get in trouble because I didn't make them complete it? What will the teacher think of me if the log isn't filled out each night? Where the heck is that log? What is a reading log? How many different colors of ink can I use to make it look like it took all month to fill this thing out? Let me crumple the edges a bit to really sell it... Did you fill out your reading log? Here's the deal. Reading is important. Parenting is hard. Being a kid is hard. Try this: Figure out what works and what doesn't for your family. Make a plan together that might include setting up the just right spot in the house and determining the just right after-school plan that you can all stick to as much as possible. Get your kid to read with someone else. We'll even sign the log for them! Seasonal and session package plans are available but space is limited. Ask the teacher if you can use a different type of log focusing on progress, not perfection. Have an evening "reading party" where you all, yes all, grab your own books, snuggle up together and read. What a great opportunity for you to get some me(ish) time, bond with your kids, and model reading habits. Read a magazine, a book, a blog (wink wink), it doesn't matter as long it's got sentences. Let them spend a week growing their vocabulary comprehension by listening to an audiobook. Alternate this with reading aloud- either you to them or them to you. Make sure they know how to pick out books appropriate to their level. Would you want to read an advanced chemistry textbook if you didn't understand it? I probably wouldn't make it to the second paragraph before conveniently finding something to conveniently distract me. Would you enjoy reading a kindergarten phonics book on your own? Boring! Parents, it's not easy. Let's hack this parenting thing. Comment with tips and tricks that work for your family. Imperfect in Arboro, Jenna What does the *+ mean on these services? It means they are included as part of both the Circuit and the Bolt Membership Plans!

I feel a connection with Arboro because the teachers know my name. They accept me for who I am, and they recognize my strengths and my efforts. They focus less on what is wrong and find the parts of it that are right and say “I see what you’re thinking, but try this” to guide me towards understanding it. I feel warm whenever I come in here and if I feel sad that day, whenever I come here and experience this I feel much better afterward. They can find ways to help you in all the different ways people learn. If you know math in a visual way they use the best materials to help you understand. I enjoy Homework Help because now that I'm in fourth grade my homework is harder and now that I'm here I can discuss it and say “I need help with this part” and they understand it. They always make it the main priority to help me find a way to do what I need first. The first time you might think “No I can't do that” but after coming here you will start to get bursts of energy and say “I can't do that yet.” They are a guidance counselor and a teacher. They love you for who you are and treat you with respect. I always feel good energy whenever I come in here. I come in feeling not that confident and I go out feeling more confident than ever. I know that I can do it! Your Glowing and Growing Arboro Ambassador, Julianna Gilet